Season 2 is here
Therapists after dark.Nothing off-limits.
Jordan and Jerry mix clinical insight with real-life mess, humor, and grown-folk honesty. Kink, pleasure, dating, family, and the questions people are too shy (or too bold) to ask.
New on the couch
S2E2: Cheating
Oct 24, 2026
Homecoming week, Jerry's panic attack at naked yoga, and what happens when you run into a client at a sex party. Then a Couch Confessional: two weeks after his engagement, a listener learns his fiancé and his best friend of 12 years have been sleeping together. Jordan and Jerry on where they'd start as therapists, why people cheat, and whether a friendship can survive it.
Read the show notesTwo therapists. One couch.
Jordan L. Costen, LCSW
Co-host and psychotherapist
Psychotherapist, founder of Affirmative Therapy of Northern Virginia, and founder of Safe Space NOVA, a nonprofit for LGBTQ+ youth.
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Jerry St. Louis, LICSW, CST
Co-host and sex therapist
Certified sex therapist, founder of Of Colors Healing, a psychotherapy practice in Washington, D.C., and a doctoral researcher in LGBTQ+ sex education.
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How the couch works
Four recurring segments. Start with whichever one you'd say yes to at a party.
Hot Topics
Pop culture mess and the takes everybody's thinking but nobody's saying.
Start withEpisode 2: Hot Topics, Confessions & UNBOUND
Couch Confessionals
Anonymous listener stories hit the couch and nothing is off-limits. Nothing scripted, just honest reactions and candid advice.
Start withCouch Confessional: Shrinking
Fix Your Life… or Don't
Dating with intentions, or at least being honest about the lack of them. Sometimes you'll get tools. Sometimes you'll get read.
Start withFix Your Life… Or Don't: Dating With Intentions
UNBOUND
Desires, boundaries, fantasies, and understanding your kink without shame, labels, or fake sex-positive fluff.
Start withUNBOUND: Sexual Exploration
Pull up a seat
Oct 7, 2026
S2E1: You Don't Have to Settle
Season 2 is here. Jordan and Jerry catch up on their summer and what's changed since Season 1, then get into dating and settling: when being "realistic" turns into accepting less than you need, standards vs. non-negotiables, and what divorce can teach you about starting over.
May 3, 2026
Couch Confessional: Shrinking
A listener's parents say they accept them, but keep misgendering their partner. Jordan and Jerry on grieving people who are still alive, and the cost of shrinking yourself for someone else's comfort.
Apr 13, 2026
You Don't Have Standards… You Just Think You Do
Everybody says they have standards until it's time to stand on them. Why most people don't have real non-negotiables, and keep ending up in the same situations.
Mar 28, 2026
F.Y.L.O.D.: Gaslighting Once = I'm Done
Everyone has a dating list. Where do standards end and fantasy begin? Real non-negotiables, why effort beats words, and why gaslighting once is a dealbreaker.
Mar 17, 2026
I've Never Said This Out Loud: Addiction Confession
One of the hardest moments Jordan and Jerry have shared on the couch: an addiction confession, raw and unfiltered. Support resources are in the show notes.
Mar 13, 2026
Couch Confessional: My Partner Wants an Open Relationship
A listener's partner wants an open relationship, and they're not sure what to do. Jordan and Jerry talk boundaries, trust, communication, and moving from monogamy to non-monogamy.
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